Sometimes,
in reading Marcel Proust’s great novel, it seems as if he is clueless on the
subject of love. There are passages in In
Search of Lost Time or Remembrance of
Things Past (the title changes depending on the translation), where the narrator
seems oblivious to the realities of his own heart.
Portrait of Marcel Proust by Jacques-Émile Blanche in the Musée d'Orsay, Paris |
For
instance, in the second volume of the novel, Within a Budding Grove, the narrator gets the brush-off from his
big crush, Gilberte: “On several occasions I sensed that Gilberte was anxious
to put off my visits.” Duh! It took him this long to get the hint?
What
about the fact that the narrator’s excitement in seeing Gilberte is ten times
hers whenever they meet? And what about the reality that no one could possibly
feel comfortable with the narrator’s overbearing love? He wanted to “smother” Gilberte
with flowers every single day, until he found out by chance she had a boyfriend,
when he glimpsed them walking together on the Champs-Elysées. How could he not
have guessed?
In any
case, it takes the narrator another 65 pages, closely spaced, finally to
conclude, “I had arrived at a state of almost complete indifference to
Gilberte.” Even then, incredibly, he’s still shlepping the torch for her—he is
so pained by his beloved’s rejection that he can’t bear to set eyes on her.
Here is perhaps
Proust’s most famous pronouncements on love,
from this same section of the novel: “No doubt
very few people understand the purely subjective nature of the phenomenon that
we call love, or how it creates, so to speak, a supplementary person, distinct
from the person whom the world knows by the same name, a person most of whose
constituent elements are derived from ourselves."
But is love purely a subjective phenomenon? Is the beloved really only a phantom third person to the lover? Maybe some of the time, but then what is all this talk about, “I just wanna get next to you,” to quote the old soul tune, so often repeated in current rap songs. Not to mention the five billion condoms sold each year worldwide. I’m not convinced that the subjective nature of love is Proust’s most “penetrating” insight.
“We are, when in love, in an abnormal state, capable of giving at once to the most apparently simple accident, an accident which may at any moment occur, a seriousness which in itself it would not entail. What makes us so happy is the presence in our hearts of an unstable element which we contrive perpetually to maintain and of which we cease almost to be aware so long as it is not displaced.”
But is love purely a subjective phenomenon? Is the beloved really only a phantom third person to the lover? Maybe some of the time, but then what is all this talk about, “I just wanna get next to you,” to quote the old soul tune, so often repeated in current rap songs. Not to mention the five billion condoms sold each year worldwide. I’m not convinced that the subjective nature of love is Proust’s most “penetrating” insight.
What I do love
about Proust’s understanding of love are those passages where he has X-ray
vision into the truth of human emotions. In the midst of the narrator’s angst
about Gilberte, for instance, there are sentences that are so honest and full of
close observation of the heart and its trickery, that no one else could untangle
those feelings:
“We are, when in love, in an abnormal state, capable of giving at once to the most apparently simple accident, an accident which may at any moment occur, a seriousness which in itself it would not entail. What makes us so happy is the presence in our hearts of an unstable element which we contrive perpetually to maintain and of which we cease almost to be aware so long as it is not displaced.”
What an
incredible description of someone in love—that altered state, where the
presence of the beloved in the lover’s mind and body electrifies even trivial
moments! And isn’t it so true that the excitement of love is partly the way it kicks
over our everyday experience and makes us tremble with life for that very
reason? This passage is an example of where Proust’s insights into love really
hit home for me. You have to dig for those nuggets in his prose, rather than
taking his theory as his only dictum on the subject of love.
Zack’s most recent translation, Bérénice 1934–44: An Actress in Occupied Paris by Isabelle Stibbe
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